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Family
Posted on June 3rd, 2012 No comments“Now at last my husband will become attached to me,
because I have borne him three sons.”
Genesis 29:34
As an unmarried woman, I had long labored under the belief the marriage automatically bestowed companionship, warmth, and protection – all the warm & fuzzy feelings normally associated with family. (That’s my word of wisdom for today – family.) Over the years, as I saw couples that I thought were happy suddenly file for divorce; and even as I spoke with women who love their husbands & children admit that there were times when they still felt alone, I’ve come to realize that family doesn’t automatically mean “closeness”. Leah was Jacob’s first, but unloved, wife; and she’s the one hoping that giving birth to a third son will finally make him love her. It’s sad.
I’m not writing this to be a wet blanket. In my very first (May 14) blog on this website, I revealed that I did not know the importance of making choices about how I wanted my life to unfold. A family can be a place of protection, bonding, peace, warmth, understanding, etc; but now I believe family only becomes that place if you choose & plan for your family to be that safe haven. Being happily married is better than being alone; and being alone is much better than being unhappily married. The planning begins with God.
God sets the lonely in families . . .
Psalm 68:6
The purpose of If I Knew Then What I Know Now is to share some insights that I wish someone had told me about when I was younger. There’s a fuller explanation on my first post, written on May 14, 2012.
3 responses to “Family”
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“A family can be a place of protection, bonding, peace, warmth, understanding, etc.; but now I believe family only becomes that place if you choose and plan for your family to be that safe haven.” (A quote from your blog post)
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Permit me to add this quote from Psalm 127:1-3 —“Unless the LORD builds the house,
its builders labor in vain.
Unless the LORD watches over the city,
the watchmen stand guard in vain.
In vain you rise early
and stay up late,
toiling for food to eat —
for he grants sleep to those he loves.”It most assuredly takes alot of thought, planning, and hard work to make a house a godly home. However, it is only when we —
“Commit to the LORD whatever (we) do, (that our) plans will succeed.” Proverbs 16:3
I only know this because I have raised 4 children with my husband and have suffered much because I did not “trust in the LORD with all (my) heart” and leaned on my own understanding instead. (Proverbs 3:5)
That’s a sure-fire way to keep your house and house and not the warm, nurturing, protective haven that we all aspire to. I’m still learning and submitting to Him . . . . 🙂 KK
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kirkpt June 6th, 2012 at 05:13
Rhonda,
I grabbed a moment and sat to read your blog yesterday. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with us daily. I’ve come to look forward to your posts and just wanted you to know.
About this post… I Can’t believe that you wrote about Psalms 68:6 on this day. My jaw dropped as I saw your post. It was the very same verse that I had written about in my book that day. I’ve never heard anyone else reference it and when I uncovered it about 6 months ago – I found it perfect for that section of my text. It is the only place in the Bible that I’ve found referencing placing the people “into families”. Have you found it anywhere else?
Anyway, may you be Blessed today. I look forward to your posts.
Blessings,
Toni
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believerkjk June 3rd, 2012 at 12:22